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You down with OPA?

That's Over Planners Anonymous... yeah you know me!

Hello, my name is Erin and I’m an obsessive planner. There I’ve said it. I know I need help. I know it’s over the top. I know that making six spreadsheets about the same thing will not make the outcome any different…

I spent all of Sunday afternoon researching a vacation that I probably shouldn’t take.

You see I like to have a vacation or something planned to look forward to. It really helps push me through the very gray days we see here in the NW. Spring can last until June here, and by Spring I mean, rain, drizzle, rain, more rain and dark clouds.

The vacation that we’d planned for NYC was the perfect escape. But of course it’s not going to happen. I’d thought of just planning another trip to NYC in the summer, but Scott’s new job won’t allow that. In fact the only time he can really take a vacation is the deep winter, when no one wants to buy or build decks and fences.

So I sat on the couch yesterday in my PJ’s and daydreamed about Hawaii and Mexcio. I even went so far as to look up condo rental prices and found some awesome deals for December. And of course the airfare is awesome because we have tickets already paid for, just waiting to be used.

All sounds perfect, except a) I feel bad if we don’t actually make it to NYC but NYC in cold, wet winter sounds like not so much fun to me and b) If IVF is successful I’d be a few months along in December. Traveling to Mexico while pregnant maybe not a good idea? But I did find that the resort town has a hospital emergency room staffed by English speaking doctors from Miami. But what a horrible place to be faced with complications. Who knows!

I’d already kind of decided to push the IVF back to July because I’m going to Illinois for a wedding in June. I didn’t think trying to travel to the Midwest in summer while also taking meds that can cause hot flashes was the best idea. Plus I think my family would appreciate it if my moods aren't swinging from Iowa to Indiana while there.

But then I feel pretty guilty for even thinking about vacation. Where are my priorities? Baby vs. Vacation. Who wins? Can I have both? Should I just chill out forget about it? I’m frustrated. My SIL went to Hawaii while five months pregnant with twins. She called it her babymoon. Last chance for tropical paradise before life changed forever. Plus she said being in the water was heaven.

I know the answer is to wait and see. See if you get pregnant. See what the doctor says. See how you feel. I hate waiting to see! I need some instant gratification! Maybe new shoes will help…oh wait, I can’t even wear normal shoes right now! Dagnabit! Give me some butter clumps stat!

9 comments:

Melissa said...

LOL.(the ending)
i went tp NYC November 2007 and it was pretty fun, regardless of the cold. Although i was pissed off b/c i missed conan b/c of the writers strike! bah! anyway, it was fun either way...

Stacey said...

Oh, you and your butter clumps! :)

Sometimes I like to do some vacation dreaming just in case it all actually works out to go. You never know, right?

B MoM said...

I hate how we plan our lives around that "maybe baby." I did that all last year and I've yet to be pregnant with one that sticks. this year, I'm going ahead and living life and if I fall preggo then so be it.

Mrs. Gamgee said...

I am right there with you! My DH and I are planning a trip to NYC in the fall (have already bought the tickets and booked the hotel). Now I'm playing the ttc-math game... If I get pg next month then I will be 6 mo's pregnant in NYC. Do I want to be that far along? Will I be able to enjoy the trip? Should we avoid for another month? *sigh* Whatever happens happens right?

ICLW

Nic said...

Happy ICLW! I over plan as well. I love a list and a goal! I think you should do the hol and see if you get pregnant. If you dont book the hol you may regret it. If you do get pregnant you may need the break!!

Kristin said...

Vacation dreaming can take the sting out of not being to escape for real. I hope you manage both the baby and the vacation.

~ICLW

Lucy said...

I'm an obsessive planner too...but I think DH and I need to plan a vacation. I'm not really ready to sit out a cycle, but I think it'll be good for us to plan one...but it's so hard to not see it as either/or, baby/vacation. GL! ICLW

cady said...

i've been thinking about a vacation lately, too, but then having to think, well if this works, how pregnant will i be and where will we want to go??

iclw

MrsJoyner said...

Go on vacation...I play the ttc-pregnancy game too..But you have to live life..like other commenters have said, if your pregnant, then you'll need the "babymoon" if not, then you'll need the vacation. Go tropical:) Its' the best.